tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post9126322540064525433..comments2024-01-04T09:23:45.843-05:00Comments on Watching the Lights Go Out: The Last Post … (?)David Hilfiker http://www.blogger.com/profile/00479949692410414480noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-1332787895641725042015-12-10T01:17:57.009-05:002015-12-10T01:17:57.009-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Jhon Marshalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04118920802938626798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-51898291778689915422015-10-09T14:40:57.400-04:002015-10-09T14:40:57.400-04:00David, I just came across your blog today. Warm g...David, I just came across your blog today. Warm greetings from Montreal, Canada. I pray that you are doing well and just wanted to leave you a comment to let you know I passed by.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12692170857496442623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-18255948762601163072015-03-27T07:15:40.059-04:002015-03-27T07:15:40.059-04:00thank you for sharing :)thank you for sharing :)brat pungoohttp://blogciotkos.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-63468424018805845062015-03-07T15:04:04.523-05:002015-03-07T15:04:04.523-05:00How I have missed your blog. Thinking that perhaps...How I have missed your blog. Thinking that perhaps I had been dropped from your heads-up, blog alert, I looked up your last blog and just found what may be your last post. I am so sorry... both of my parents died with a diagnosis of Alzheimer's, and I am always looking over my shoulder to see what follows in their wake.Every time I forget something, I quake in fear. I found your blog informative, reassuring, and warm. My thoughts and good wishes go with you. I love your writing that this journey is "just a phase in life." Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-56881998835262408252015-02-02T07:44:25.721-05:002015-02-02T07:44:25.721-05:00I don't know if anyone looks at the comments a...I don't know if anyone looks at the comments at this point, but want to share that a gentleman named Greg O'Brien is now sharing his experience of early Alzheimer's with NPR. Find them on npr.org- broadcast has been on Morning Edition and All Things Considered. Hearing someone talk about it is very helpful to those coping in silence.<br />And, if you check in, I hope you are doing well, Cr. Hilfiker.bluejeenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588719330762993119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-51598608170226517152015-01-28T14:50:58.509-05:002015-01-28T14:50:58.509-05:00This whole blog is nothing but a god send, thank y...This whole blog is nothing but a god send, thank you for all you have done david! there is good news on the forefront though The Next Puzzle Piece to the Cure for Alzheimer's http://hubs.ly/y0ts6b0Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-51648497211562243142015-01-20T01:43:50.883-05:002015-01-20T01:43:50.883-05:00Thanks for your wonderful article.Thanks for your wonderful article.Population of Bangladeshhttp://www.populationofbangladesh.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-60653455456630252852014-10-26T19:03:45.507-04:002014-10-26T19:03:45.507-04:00I agree with Anonymous that KarenJR also expressed...I agree with Anonymous that KarenJR also expressed my feelings so eloquently. Your blog was a godsend which I happened upon, just after my husband was diagnosed with MCI, later early Alzheimers. Your insights have helped me through this journey; God bless you as you continue on your own. Tarheel girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-90881137430844823882014-10-23T16:51:35.889-04:002014-10-23T16:51:35.889-04:00David - we'll miss these posts but are so very...David - we'll miss these posts but are so very grateful we still have you, without your lights winking out. What a gift you are to us @ 8th Day community. I prayed when you first were diagnosed with Altzheimers and I feel my prayers have been answered. DawnAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10304120922620665204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-72226568334752856762014-10-22T19:26:33.581-04:002014-10-22T19:26:33.581-04:00I am so early in this journey that I was asked to ...I am so early in this journey that I was asked to leave a support group for early stage. I made some of the participants uneasy somehow, probably too talkative. Your blog has been my support as I puzzled about changes that I was very aware of even if others were not. Thank you some much for being so honest, open and vulnerable. I love how you changed over time to be more comfortable with receiving love and enjoying your existance. That is huge. I am reading "An Altar in the World" by Barbara Brown Taylor. I recommend it to anyone who wants to increase their awareness of how God is present everywhere. You have helped me and so many others through this blog. Bless you for responding to the Spirit.jmojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13108760337271048086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-70556545167031756882014-10-22T16:54:52.424-04:002014-10-22T16:54:52.424-04:00KarenJR has done a wonderful job at encapsulating...KarenJR has done a wonderful job at encapsulating my own good responses and feelings to Dr. Hilfiker's columns and toward his life's choices. In seeking to write something, I came upon her response, and it nicely saved me about 5 hours of trying to do something good enough to send. So now both KarenJR AND Dr. Hilfiker are on my list of great people! Best to all of you, and all of the bloggers here!<br />SodiumAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-8127247739157820372014-10-21T20:57:54.074-04:002014-10-21T20:57:54.074-04:00Friends:
To all of you who have posted these comme...Friends:<br />To all of you who have posted these comments or written me privately, I am so grateful. This community that has accompanied me over this two-year journey has been inspiring. Thanks to each one of you.<br />DavidDavid Hilfiker https://www.blogger.com/profile/00479949692410414480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-15179048885719909062014-10-21T20:55:42.657-04:002014-10-21T20:55:42.657-04:00What an honor!
Thank you.What an honor!<br />Thank you.David Hilfiker https://www.blogger.com/profile/00479949692410414480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-62362587113191999882014-10-21T14:57:45.129-04:002014-10-21T14:57:45.129-04:00Dear David,
I haven't written before, but hav...Dear David,<br /><br />I haven't written before, but have very much been intending to, and most definitely must do so now! <br /><br />I want to say an enormous thank you to you. I have been following your blog from a few months after you started writing. A loved one had just been diagnosed with early-stage Alzheimers and I discovered your blog through an internet search. I was feeling very sad, and frightened. My gran who died in the late 80's sadly had dementia for about 15 years before she died, and I remembered many aspects of her experience, particularly in her last few years, as harrowing. And so when my loved one was diagnosed in 2013, many painful memories of my gran's experience came back to me. <br /><br />Your blog has given me so much. In the first year I nearly always cried while I was reading it ... my crying was because I felt comforted in something which felt very painful ... I was feeling connected to another human being who was experiencing something similar to my loved one, was writing about it in an incredibly warm, loving, honest and helpful way and in doing so was addressing so many of my fears. Reading your blog I experienced love and hope in an unexpected way, and at an enexpected time. (You've got me crying again as I recall this with such gratitude!)<br /><br />Your writing is suberb. Compassionate, funny, vivid ... you described many processes which my loved one was also experiencing. Your detailed descriptions of the way cognitive impairment was affecting you in an everyday sense were hugely helpful to my understanding. And they in turn wonderfully enriched the conversations I was then able to have with my loved one. Thank you. You are such a gifted teacher.<br /><br />As well as the detailed observations you made and the explanations you gave which were so helpful, it was also (as so many people have said) the way you write, and think, and are. The love that came over, your spirituality with a small 's', your openess, the joy you were experiencing, the sense of exploration about a new part of your life, your positivity, your hope, your honesty when you didn't feel hopeful ... they were wonderful, wonderful gifts to receive. Thank you. <br /><br />As I read on, through the months, I learnt from you at so many levels, and began to come to more of an acceptance of what was happening to my loved one. I became so appreciative of all the things we can still do together, and more able to concentrate on the present. My loved one is still at a very early stage of Alzheimers and is doing brilliantly in so many ways. He is involved in many things and is happy. Blessings indeed. <br /><br />David, I am so, so happy that your 'cognitive lights are no longer winking out'. That is such brilliant, brilliant news. And again, your posts about that, and your puzzlement about it and your range of feelings as you took the news in, were so moving and enlightening to read. <br /><br />Thanks too for sharing so many different aspects of your life, your relationship with Marja, and your community. <br /><br />Reading your blog has inspired me, comforted me, connected me, made me more fully human. It has been life-changing and life-enhancing. So (for selfish reasons!) I admit I feel very sad it is coming to an end, at the same time as feeling hugely honoured to have been able to read it. I will miss it loads ... but couldn't be more delighted at the reason it is ending!!! Your blog has been a rare, and very, very precious gift, an absolute privilege to read. <br /><br />Thank you for so very much, and yes, very much look forward to continuing to read your writing in other contexts! <br /><br />Wishing you and Marja and your community every happiness,<br /><br />Karen Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-50475439257383757762014-10-21T13:02:41.318-04:002014-10-21T13:02:41.318-04:00I look forward to hearing where you will next be p...I look forward to hearing where you will next be posting. Be sure and let us know. Peace. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-56480786109249518882014-10-21T12:31:04.404-04:002014-10-21T12:31:04.404-04:00Thank you, Cathy. I promise I'll send out not...Thank you, Cathy. I promise I'll send out notification if I start a new blog or resurrect this one.David Hilfiker https://www.blogger.com/profile/00479949692410414480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-72146467276134305222014-10-21T08:55:21.524-04:002014-10-21T08:55:21.524-04:00Thank you so much for your wisdom and insights. Thank you so much for your wisdom and insights. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-53382954575304231752014-10-20T20:34:36.303-04:002014-10-20T20:34:36.303-04:00I have read this blog quite regularly and found it...I have read this blog quite regularly and found it very interesting and illuminating. Thank you for sharing your journey so honestly, and many blessings on the next stage of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-54330308968490283702014-10-20T18:18:57.816-04:002014-10-20T18:18:57.816-04:00Hello,
Bon voyage. Gassho, EdwardHello,<br />Bon voyage. Gassho, EdwardAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02102633906367786640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-45664688106828346962014-10-20T17:30:01.348-04:002014-10-20T17:30:01.348-04:00I am a daughter, step-daughter, niece, and caregiv...I am a daughter, step-daughter, niece, and caregiver for individuals with AD. Thank you for your courage to share yourself as you went through this journey. You have touched your readers in many ways that you cannot imagine and for which we are are deeply grateful. Blessings to you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-79422850209893466242014-10-20T17:05:18.979-04:002014-10-20T17:05:18.979-04:00Your posts have been important insights for me per...Your posts have been important insights for me personally and as my parents age. Thank you for your generosity.Liz Rollenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-56185180443989873382014-10-20T15:43:30.765-04:002014-10-20T15:43:30.765-04:00And, if I may speak for others who have read your ...And, if I may speak for others who have read your blog, we are deeply grateful to you too Dr! I came here hoping to see if I could make a self-diagnosis. Both my parents died of AD and I have really had a lot of memory problems. I stayed when my husband died last winter and I felt a sense of warmth and strength when I read how you were coping with your challenges. And I still read every post because you are a charming, insightful man who knows how to make the best of a bad situation. Thank you for your story, your recommendations and the work it took to keep this going. I hope I will still receive an email when, or if, you decide to start a new blog. Thanks again!Cathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-41125695044673676302014-10-20T12:55:35.586-04:002014-10-20T12:55:35.586-04:00Thank you , Lee Ann. You’ve been an important par...Thank you , Lee Ann. You’ve been an important part of this journey.David Hilfiker https://www.blogger.com/profile/00479949692410414480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6426202096598051070.post-92222541259714936832014-10-19T16:41:14.255-04:002014-10-19T16:41:14.255-04:00I would check every day or two, and when I saw y...I would check every day or two, and when I saw you hadn't written a post since September, I would smile. Believing you are out there living your life, busy with family, friends, Church, etc. I was imagining you in a kayak on a river, on Amtrak going to visit, in Church, discussing things with friends. <br /><br />I remember a hospice patient I took care of, who watched every sunset and sunrise. And he always said, "I didn't begin to live until I found out I was going to die." You have somewhat of a reprieve. I had somewhat the same feeling with my embolism. I value and cherish little things more. I bet you are doing somewhat the same thing. Enjoy, dance and make merry. Life is too short to NOT dance and sing. Or laugh and enjoy the love around you. <br /><br />Let us know when you start another blog. I've enjoyed this one. Take care of you and your wonderful wife. Make Merry. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02560132598266108913noreply@blogger.com